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“Divorce”

‘Divorce’ is Googled 7,480,000 times per month.

Because divorce is Googled so many times per month and because there are a zillion pages about divorce, it was going to be hard to compete in the search engine. So I chose something more specific “pain of divorce.” Yes, people are actually searching for that, 3,600 people per month in fact. In retrospect, these were most likely individuals who had already been divorced and just looking for a way to deal with the pain. But my press release is a different focus.

Here are the top search phrases people searched, when they found my press release.
1.broken heart divorce
2.pain broken heart
3.how to pray for you marriage
4.pain of divorce
5.pray for divource

Interestingly enough, in comparison to the suicide press release, this one has received a lot fewer hits (1,590) in four years. However, I have received multiple emails from people requesting prayer for their marriage, both men AND women. I have not received ANY emails from the suicide press release. I hope this is not a bad sign, but God knows. In later posts, I will elaborate on my analysis of those emails received.

**Note, the number of searches per month for divorce has cut in half since 2009. Not sure what this indicates, but maybe it’s a good sign?

Here is the “divorce” press release:
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Marriage Divorce Broken Heart Unexpected Pain? Let me pray for you. There is hope.

Marriages are ending in divorce at an alarming rate. Hearts are broken and lives are overflowing with unexpected pain. We have learned to make it through each day because everything around us just says, “Give up. You’re now a part of the NORM.”

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

PRLog (Press Release) – Apr. 6, 2009 – Marriages are ending in divorce at an alarming rate. Hearts are broken and lives are overflowing with unexpected pain. We have learned to make it through each day because everything around us just says, “Give up. You’re now a part of the NORM.”

While expecting less than the best, we secretly long for more.

People are Googling ‘divorce’ 4 million more times per month than they are Googling ‘marriage.’ There are around 14 million searches for ‘divorce’ on average per month.

If you’re reading this press release, you’re more than likely one of those roughly 14 million individuals using Google as a first resort to find an answer to the problems that plague your marriage. Or maybe you’ve already resigned to give up and Google is your last ditch effort to at least find someone else who has survived the pain of divorce.

I’m not pointing my finger at you. I have also obsessively Googled any marriage problem under the sun to see what everyone else had to say regarding how to have a successful marriage. And I must confess that I still have not completely nipped my bad habit in the bud. But it hit me like a ton of bricks when I was meandering through my Bible the other day–Wow–I’ve been going to Google for answers instead of God?!? While it may flatter Google to know that they’ve received way more queries than God in the last month–this phenomenon is a small piece of the larger picture that depicts a world literally dying to know the truth. They just aren’t finding the answers that ring true.

You may argue with me….”But you CAN find God on Google.” “I’m reading THIS press release because I found it on Google.”

Yes. And you can find so much more. How are you going to filter your search results? How are you going to separate the wheat from the chaff? The good from the bad? The truth from the lies?

It won’t be easy. And by the time you’ve found one grain of salt, your mind will have likely become so clouded by fence straddling advice–that you just decide on compromising your beliefs in favor of your flesh.

You’re looking for a way to save your marriage. You’re looking for a way to keep your family together. You’re looking for a way to avenge a cheating spouse. You’re looking for a way to soothe your conscience. You’re looking for a way to fulfill the desires of your flesh. You’re looking for a way to find someone who REALLY cares. You’re looking for a way of escape.

Jesus said, “I am the way.”

Everyone is so afraid of offending the masses and yet they don’t know how to refrain from offending their own spouse. Everyone is so afraid of being politically correct, yet they can’t manage their own household with diplomacy. Everyone is so afraid of letting Jesus into their hearts that they settle for selling their family’s soul to the devil.

I get caught up in popular culture too. A lot of times, I just keep my mouth shut because I don’t want to offend someone who doesn’t believe Jesus is THE way. I don’t want people to think I’m weak because I believe that Jesus is THE way, the truth and the life. I am afraid that someone will deduce my intelligence to zero if they knew how much I depend on God to get me through each day. And I don’t want them to look up all my past indiscretions and just excuse my relationship with God as a hypocritical façade.

So I keep my mouth shut and continue to live in obscurity just like the rest of the world. THIS is not what our lives are supposed to be. I’m tired of living a mediocre life and settling for something less than the best. But I feel so swept away by society. I get caught up in a wave of excuses designed to keep us doing the same bad things over and over again.

I’ve run off on a little bit of a rabbit trail. What does all of this have to do with marriage?

Marriages are dying. They are getting choked out by lies. Lies in the form of concessions made for each gender: Men are visual creatures. Women are emotional creatures. Men are warriors. Women are nurturers. Men need lots of sex. Women can do without sex. Men need respect. Women need love.

And from these concessions, other, more dangerous conclusions are drawn, based on the general premise that “there is a good explanation or justification for your sin because as a man/woman, you just can’t help yourself.”

Do not be deceived, God is not mocked. Whatever you sow, you will reap.

Simple as that–MAN or WOMAN–it remains difficult to live IN this world but not OF this world.

That is why I’m not offering answers for your specific marriage problem. I’m begging you to go to the Word of God and look for those answers yourself. Because I am human and face the same problems in my marriage as you, I am better suited to pray for you and leave the answers to God.

This is what I want my ministry to be–to pray for your marriage. To have faith with you that your marriage will be healed. You are not alone and I want you to have the faith to keep going because God can work a miracle in your marriage. God can turn your situation around and work everything together for your good. I created an email address specifically for collecting prayer requests for your marriage. You can email me with your name and prayer request. You do not have to include your name. You do not have to include your problem. You can just email me and say something like, “My marriage needs prayer.”

I will pray for you every day to the best of my ability and if I get so many requests that I cannot handle the volume, I will invite others to join me.

The reason I’ve decided to do this is because I’ve been praying for a big purpose in life and there is nothing more disturbing than seeing the family unit dissolve so quickly. I want my prayers for your marriage to serve as the hope that you need to keep going and the proof that you need to believe God still answers prayer.

If you need prayer for your marriage, email me at: marriageprayers@gmail.com

You can email anonymously if you wish.

Thank you for reading and I pray that you can live in Godly harmony with your spouse. Divorce is only a temporary solution to a permanent problem.

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If you’re reading this press release, you’re more than likely one of those roughly 14 million individuals using Google as a first resort to find an answer to the problems that plague your marriage. Or maybe you’ve already resigned to give up and Google is your last ditch effort to at least find someone else who has survived the pain of divorce.
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